The perfect cup of tea

Here at dizzie.net we’re all about the tea. I’ve never been a big coffee drinker. Don’t get me wrong – I love the smell. But for me, it’s got to be a big mug of tea. (Usually two, to be fair).

So what’s the recipe for the perfect cup of tea? Simple. Time. Cup of tea = ‘me time’. So whether you take it with 2 sugars, black, extra milky or ‘as it comes’, the most important ingredient in the perfect cup of tea is a little bit of time to sit down and enjoy it. Oh, and your favourite mug.

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Breathing into nowness

Today is all there is. Tomorrow doesn’t exist and yesterday is gone. All we have is now.

Nowness, or mindfulness, is the art of being in the moment, immersed completely in now. But before we can be present, we have to notice that we’re not, and this takes some practice.

What can I wear tomorrow?

What am I going to do about my broken hub-cap?

How am I going to make them like me more?

We drive ourselves mad. So stop. Notice the thoughts. And breathe. Long deep breaths. Count 3 in. Count 3 out. Repeat 5 times and concentrate only on your breathing. This is a calming technique which comes from yoga practice. When you have finished the cycle, notice your surroundings and move on. If the thought returns, notice it and let it go. It’s just a thought – it doesn’t exist.

  1. Stop
  2. Notice the thought
  3. Breathe 3 and 3 for 5
  4. Let it go

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What is mindfulness?

To put it simply, mindfulness is about being present in the moment. It is a technique which takes a lot of practice to become second nature, but once learned it can be applied to any aspect of your everyday life. It is a way of thinking and a way of living that can be transformative, and can literally change your way of looking at the world around you. As soon as you become present in the moment, all your worries and fears fade away and you are able to immerse yourself in the activity, feeling or experience.

When we put aside our worries we become momentarily freed from the anxiety that is causing that worry. It is in the future, and therefore does not exist. It is not tangible in the moment. So it can be acknowledged, and then put aside. In a similar way, we can deal with obsessive thoughts when we go over and over situations that have already taken place. These things are in the past, and therefore do not exist. We worked through it, and now we have moved on.

Sometimes future thinking has a place and a purpose – to help us make important decisions we need to apply ourselves in that future place. A new job, a new house, a new partner. But ruminating over possible outcomes of not finishing the laundry, or what to have for lunch on Sunday is not effective decision making, and these are things that can be put aside. When you notice that you are over-thinking or worrying about something, try and put the thought to one side and focus your attention on what is right in front of you. The television, the view, your children, a cup of tea. Whatever it is, let it be everything in that moment. Breathe deeply and calmly and be present. Your cup of tea – what does it smell like? What colour has it turned now you’ve added some milk? What patterns are reflected on the surface? Is there steam rising from the mug? Does the mug warm your hands as you pick it up? It’s just a cup of tea, but at that moment it is everything to you. It’s the nicest cup of tea you’ve ever had!.

This is ‘nowness’ and it can be learned. It’s the beginnings of meditation and so accessible that anyone can do it and be successful.

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It does take practice. Try it today – whilst making that well-earned cup of tea.  I promise you, it will taste amazing.

 

Some things that are ok

Lists are good. Everyone likes a list. So here’s a list of things that are ok…

  1. Putting on clean pants in the morning. This is ok because it means someone in your house (or you) has been organised enough to not only find all the dirty pants and wash them, but to then put the clean ones somewhere where you can find them. If this is you – yay you! If this is someone else – yay you for finding someone to do this for you!
  2. Having a cup of tea. This is ok because tea is always ok. We like tea. Think about how much organisation goes into having a cup of tea. Having fresh milk, a clean mug, actual teabags and a kettle. This is all good stuff. Well done you!
  3. A view. If you’ve got a view from inside looking out, then well done on finding a great seat with a great view. If you’ve got a view from outside looking out, then well done on getting out. Either way, winner!
  4. Not wanting to go to work. It’s not called ‘work’ for nothing. It’s ok to rather stay at home with the pants and the tea and the view. Who wouldn’t?
  5. Not wanting to go home. Kids’ packed lunches… You know what I’m talking about…

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Sometimes, we just need to STOP and look at what is right there in front of us and try and find something good in that moment. That cup of tea looks pretty good to me right now.